Your feelings are important, aren’t they? But do you ever let your feelings get in the way of doing what you know is right? For example, we tend to think of love and marriage in terms of feelings. And so when the feelings seem to be gone, we believe that love is gone. Of course, love is not only a feeling. As Jesus says, “If you love Me, you will keep My commandments” (John 14:15).
Loving Jesus is much more than having a good feeling about Him. Loving Jesus is a commitment to him. By the same token, in marriage you make promises. You recite vows to God and to our spouse. You are not at liberty to divorce your spouse when you think certain feelings are gone. God demands that you keep your word. “Pay what you vow. It is better that you should not vow than that you should vow and not pay” (Ecclesiastes 5:4-5). How often feelings get in the way of obeying God and doing what we really know is right.
We also relate hypocrisy to how we feel. For example, because some people think love is a feeling, they also think that to stay with a husband or wife when the feeling is gone is hypocrisy. This misconception allows feelings to get in the way of doing right. And what is right? Listen again to the Bible! “‘For I hate divorce,’ says the Lord” (Malachi 2:16). Now God does not ask you how you feel about your marriage vows. He tells you that He intends to hold you to those vows and that He hates divorce. As for hypocrisy, have you ever gotten out of bed when you didn’t feel like it? Have you ever gone to work when you didn’t feel like it? You weren’t a hypocrite then were you? So don’t allow your feelings to get in the way of doing right in more important areas of your life.
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