I remember being in a courtroom when a woman was seeking a divorce. I was amazed at how long it took. The judge asked one question, “Are you and your husband incompatible?” The woman answered, “Yes, your honor.” Bang, the gavel came down and the divorce was granted. It seemed like only sixty seconds passed by. Is divorce really that easy?
The time in the courtroom is simple. The agony and heartache aren’t. Perhaps this is why Jesus put the brakes on divorce. “I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery” (Matthew 19:9). This was too much for the followers of Jesus. They put it this way, “If the relationship of a man with his wife is like this, it is better not to marry” (Matthew 19:10). Jesus is awfully narrow for our promiscuous society too.
As a result, trial marriages and people living together are ways of life. But the results are devastating. Couples who cohabit before marriage are more likely to divorce. The number of children born outside of marriage is rising. New DNA tests are producing some dramatic surprises. Right now, over a quarter of the children in America live with only one parent. Here’s another factor. Children involved in the trauma divorce are more likely to commit suicide. When you put all of this together, you realize Jesus may have a point. You can add to this the fact that marital unfaithfulness is one of the most emotionally wrenching experiences a person can have.
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